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Justina Sharp got engaged in July 2020, and from that moment on, she said she’s had to deal with unwanted wedding advice.
In a TikTok video posted on July 9, Sharp shared how she’s responded to people’s advice on everything from decor to the guest list. Sharp’s video has over 400,000 views at the time of writing.
When someone makes a comment about what decor you should have at your wedding, the 23-year-old content creator suggests responding with: “That is such a great idea, you should have a wedding.”
Sharp told Insider that she decided to make the TikTok after a different video about weddings being for guests pushed her over the edge.
“It’s like you’re constantly being told that this wedding is for everyone else, and in reality, the wedding is for you and your partner to get married,” she said. “Some people’s weddings are for everyone, mine is not. Mine is for us, and the moment that I’m looking forward to the most about my wedding is that, for once, I’m going to have everyone I love in one place.”
Since posting the initial TikTok, Sharp has shared several other videos with even more suggestions on how to respond to unwanted advice and wedding feedback.
Throughout her process, Sharp said the hardest part is how personally people take her responses despite the fact that she’s just trying to set her boundaries.
“I do think people have a very hard time separating me saying, ‘this is my boundary,’ from me saying, ‘I hate you and I’m purposely targeting you with this decision that I’ve made,'” she said. “When it comes to weddings, people feel this ownership over it, and I think a lot of people have also been taught that me taking your opinion and applying it immediately is how I show that I love you, rather than me just saying, ‘I do love you anyway, I need you to stop telling me what I should do.'”
Sharp’s advice for other brides-to-be would be to make sure that you and your partner are on the same page.
“Establish your boundaries with your partner, knowing that people are going to be upset about your decisions no matter which ones you make,” she said. “You are allowed to prioritize yourself and your partner and the kind of experience that you want to have.”
Sharp also suggests that those who love to give unsolicited wedding advice stop assuming ownership over someone else’s personal experiences.
“The one thing I keep seeing is people saying that I am a bridezilla, but if my TikToks help even one bride have a better wedding or experience, I’ve done my work and I’m fine with that,” she said.